Muslim women in Nigeria have said that they play more important roles in the family and society than to be seen as ‘sex objects’. They expressed displeasure with the numerous challenges that the society has subjected them to, noting that ‘they are reformists’. Some of the women spoke at the 2018 Sisters’ Enlightenment Programme, organized by the Sisters’ Circle of the Muslim Students’ Society of Nigeria, Lagos State Area Unit at the Lagos State Polytechnic, Isolo. The SEP, which had about 2000 females in attendance, saw experts discussing the roles of women in the society. The head of the females (Amirah), explained that there was need for awareness about key issues facing women in recent times. She said, “The 21st century woman has been subjected to a whole lot of ridicule in the society and it has gone a long way to affect her social standing. She is seen as a sex object, good for marketing products and also to satisfy lustful desires of men. “Women are placed on a high pedestal where they seem to be valued for their bodies and not their brain. Although learning to love oneself could be a difficult and long road, we need to stop looking at other people and look at ourselves. “There is no gainsaying that the Muslim woman has a critical role to play in reforming the society. ‘In Her World’ is a carefully chosen theme for this year’s SEP which is solely aimed at bringing to limelight, the struggles and realities facing the Muslim woman in her spiritual life, career, health, education as well as other aspects of her life.” Former Women Leader of Nasrullahi-l Fathi Islamic Association (NASFAT), Nafisat Arogundade, implored the women to be good ambassadors and to strive to be righteous. “Don’t be discouraged by the challenges posed on us by the society, we have a greater role to play,” she added. While speaking on the theme, ‘In Her World’, Proprietor of Pace Setters Academy, Ibadan, Toyyibah Abdul Salam, called the attention of the women to the importance of proper children upbringing in the society. She said, “A woman should be in the company of the righteous people and friends. She uses the best method for children upbringing. She treats her husband well and treat his parent like she would treat her parent. “Being a woman is an all-encompassing role. It demands that we uphold the correct tenets of Islam by our actions and in actions. We need to train ourselves to be unique individuals who do not conform to the absurd societal standards prevalent in our society. “Perfect your roles, you can do better in your roles and duties. Forget the saying that says ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, for our responsibilities are different. Females should work and be better in their responsibilities.” On her part, Director of Succour Psychological Health and Services, Ibadan, Lazbah Aroyewun while speaking on the sub-theme, ‘The Self Concept’, warned women against low self-esteem. Aroyewun said, “The ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. Prioritising the western culture affects our way of thinking and behavior. “Be confident. High self-esteem equals to high self-worth. It is the approval and value that you place upon yourself.”
The Episcopal Synod of the Church of Nigeria (Anglican Communion) has called on Anglican faithful to disregard ‘‘malicious publications’’ making the rounds on alleged impropriety and corruption in the election of the new bishop of Lagos diocese. The admonition is contained in a statement issued by the Episcopal Secretary of the Church, Bishop David Onuoha, on Tuesday in Abuja. The statement was responding to publications which the bishops said attempted to smear the image of the leadership of the Church in the aftermath of the Feb. 6 election of a successor to the incumbent Bishop of the Diocese of Lagos, who retires in August 2018. “This particular election was held alongside four others at the Cathedral Church of St Barnabas, Ilorin, in the Diocese of Kwara, Kwara State in accordance with the church’s laid down rules and regulations. The event was free and fair. “A total of 161 bishops participated and pursuant to the provisions of Canon V of the Constitution and Canons of the Church of Nigeria 1997 (as Amended), candidates were nominated after the advice from the diocese, which favoured translation, had been circulated and read. “The procedure before every election in the House of Bishops is to appoint a team of returning officers to collate the results. This was strictly followed with the Rt. Rev Sosthenes Eze, bishop of Enugu North diocese, leading eight other bishops to perform this sacred duty. “Only two candidates, Most Rev Michael Fape, bishop of Remo diocese, and Rt. Rev Humphrey Olumakaiye were duly nominated and seconded by highly respected members of the house without any objection raised against any of them,’’ According to the statement, after the voting which was by secret ballot, Most Rev’d Michael Fape polled 51 votes; Rt. Rev Humphrey Olumakaiye garnered 109 votes, while one bishop absented from the votes. “By this result Rt. Rev’ d Humphrey Olumakaiye, Bishop of Osun North East became duly elected for translation to the See of Lagos,’’ the statement said. The Episcopal Secretary noted that it was therefore uncharitable for anyone to smear the image of the Primate of the Church, Archbishop Nicholas Okoh and accuse him of not following laid down rules of the Church in the election of bishops. “The Primate as the President of the Episcopal Synod statutorily calls for nominations, and after the voting and counting of votes by those responsible, announces the results as submitted by the chief returning officer. “Votes are cast, counted and results declared in the full glare of the general house. “It is, therefore, uncharitable to attempt to smear the image of our beloved Primate, Most Rev Nicholas D Okoh, instead of thanking God for the numerous blessings He has graciously granted His church since the inception of this administration. “We call on the discerning public, especially all Anglican faithful to disregard the said malicious publications in their entirety as they are baseless and without any iota of truth. “The bishops of the Church of Nigeria remain resolute and united in their determination to uphold godliness and righteousness in their service to God and humanity. “We also call on our brethren who have fallen into this temptation of seeking to destabilize the church to use this period of Lent to seek God’s face in repentance that He may grant them forgiveness and time for amendment of life,’’’ the Episcopal Secretary said in the statement emailed to NAN in Abuja.
Police are on the trail of Mrs Nkechinyere Bartholomew, the madam accused of inflicting severe injuries and inserting sticks into the private part of her housemaid. The 12-year-old victim, Faith Nwanja, was released to her madam at the age of eight and they were living in Onitsha in Anambra state. The Ebonyi state Police Public Relation Officer (PPRO), Ms Loveth Odah, said that the suspect’s sister, who came back with the victim to Ebonyi, had been apprehended and detained. The detainee, Miss Chinelo Ngwuta, she explained, would lead the police to get the principal suspect, Bartholomew. She explained that the matter would be treated as a case in transit as the state command does not have jurisdiction over the matter because the grievous harm caused on the child was done at Anambra state. Frail looking and badly injured Faith Nwanja, had told NAN that her madam subjected her to serious bodily harm and abuse during the four years she served as her maid. “My mistress usually inserts sticks inside my vagina, hits me with iron rods, wires and also ties me with chain whenever she is going out. “My Aunty always use blade to cut my skin. “These scars, injuries on my head, body and lips were inflicted on me by my Aunty for 4 years, ‘’ Nwanja narrated in her dialect. Nwanja, a native of Okoffia-Ohaji, is currently in custody of Ezza-South Local Government in Ebony state. The suspect, Bartholomew, is at large. Mrs Ngozi Nwanja, the mother of the victim, said her daughter was 8 when she was handed over to Bartholomew. Mr Godwin Igwe, Head of Department, Child Development in the state ministry of Women Affairs and Social Development, described the degree of injures on the victim as “real damage’’. “This is worrisome. There is increasing cases of child brutalization. “From all indications Nwanja’s hand is condemned and we don’t know the extent of damage to her brain and other parts of her body,” Igwe said. Meanwhile, the Chief Medical Director (CMD), Federal Teaching Hospital Abakaliki (FEITH), Dr Emeka Ogah, has said the victim was currently undergoing series of medical examination. Ogah who was represented by Chairman Medical Advisory Committee (CMAC), Dr Robbinson Ono, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) that paediatricians have been directed to carry out various test on the victim. “We are still investigating the case. We cannot give out any report now until the paediatricians have concluded the tests.’’ The Wife of the State Governor, Mrs Rachael Umahi, has condemned the dehumanisation of Nwanja. Rachael Umahi, wife of Ebony governor She directed all relevant agencies to ensure that the culprit was handled in accordance with the law while the victim would be treated and rehabilitated. Mrs Umahi gave the directive through her Chief Press Secretary, Mr Donatus Owo. “This act is highly condemnable, we have asked the International Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA), Police , organisations and agencies to follow up the matter to bring the culprit to book,” she said. (NAN)
Nollywood actor Segun Arinze has said that social media is helping to destroy so many celebrity marriages. Arinze, who was married to Anne Njemanze, said celebrities aren’t “helping themselves” by putting their private lives on social media. “I have had my share of it,” he said, speaking to LIB “remember I had a broken marriage.” He said: Social Media is helping to destroy so many marriages and a lot of our so-called celebrities are not helping themselves by putting their marriages and relationships on social media. Your private life should be private. I have had my share of it, remember I had a broken marriage before I remarried again. Learn to keep your private life private and your public life public. You don’t let the whole world come into your life and see what you are doing because the same people who are seeing you today and going to mock you tomorrow. As a public figure, it’s really tough being a public figure. Celebrities need to separate their private lives from the public, show what’s necessary if it’s important. It’s really crazy how everybody post about their private life on the Internet, looking for likes and all that. Social media has its advantages in terms of reaching out to fans, marketing
The three-year old marriage between a popular radio presenter, Omotoke Makinwa and her estranged husband, Maje Ayida has hit the rocks. An Igbosere High Court in Lagos on Thursday dissolved the union, citing husband’s adulterous lifestyle. Makinwa is the co-host of the ‘Morning Drive’ on Rhythm 93.7FM, a blogger and an author. She had on March 9, 2016, asked the court to dissolve the marriage on the grounds that the husband committed adultery. Justice Morenike Obadina, while delivering judgment held that Ayida filed an answer to the petition but did not give oral evidence in support of it. She said the position of the law was settled as pleadings did not amount to evidence. “Pleadings on which no evidence was led are deemed abandoned. Therefore, Ayida’s evidence is deemed abandoned. “The effect being that the petitioner’s evidence is unchallenged and uncontroverted,’’ she ruled. The judge said the issue of cruelty which the petitioner (Makinwa) relied on was established because of the “mental and emotional stress” she was subjected to by her husband. He said Makinwa had sufficiently proven that the husband committed adultery and continued to flaunt his adulterous relationships even to her face. “I hold that the marriage has broken down on grounds of intolerable behaviour. “I hereby pronounce a `Decree Nisi’ dissolving the marriage between Makinwa and Ayida which was administered at the Federal Marriage Registry, Ikoyi, Lagos, on Jan. 15, 2014. “The order Nisi shall become absolute three months from today unless within that period sufficient cause is shown why it should not be made absolute,” Obadina said. Makinwa had told the court that her husband committed adultery with his mistress, Anita Solomon, adding that the relationship produced a child. She said since their marriage was contracted, the husband had “behaved in a way she could not reasonably be expected to continue to bear”. She also said the husband was cruel towards her, adding that their differences became irreconcilable. During the trial, the petitioner (Makinwa ) testified in court and tendered some documents including their marriage certificate which were admitted in evidence. In her testimony, she said that after their marriage was contracted in 2014, cohabitation with her husband ceased on Nov. 8, 2015, without any child from the marriage. She also told the court of an instance where her husband threatened separation and even drafted a separation agreement because she discovered that he bought a ticket for his mistress to travel to London. The first respondent (Ayida) who replied to the petition when served, however, instructed his counsel, Mr T. O. Lawal, not to continue with the defence. Ayida through his counsel, therefore, foreclosed all evidence. The mistress (Solomon), who is the second respondent, refused to join issues with the petitioner.
Swaziland’s King Mswati the III has married 19-year-old Siphelele Mashwama, daughter of Swaziland cabinet minister, Jabulile Mashwama as his 14th wife. According to sources this is coming after many weeks of speculation, Maravi reports. The new bride for the Swazi King has been confirmed by royal festivities overseer, Hlangabeza Mdluli. He made the revealed that the new bride is currently in New York in the United States, where the 49-year old King is attending the United Nations General Assembly. Mdluli told local journalists on Sunday, while the King was about to board his flight to the New York, that the King has officially made his choice of the new wife. Siphelele is King Mswati’s latest and youngest wife in terms of age. His other wives include: Inkhosikati LaMatsebula, Inkhosikati LaMotsa, Inkhosikati LaMbikiza, Inkhosikati LaNgangaza, Inkosikati LaMagwaza (deserted), Inkhosikati LaHoala (deserted), Inkhosikati LaMasango, Inkhosikati LaGija (deserted). Others are Inkhosikati Magongo, Inkhosikati LaMahlangu, Inkhosikati LaNtentesa, Inkhosikati LaNkambule, Inkhosikati Ladube and Inkhosikati LaFogiyane. King Mswati, also known as Ngwenyama, “the lion,” is said to have over 13 children, which include his eldest daughter HRH Princess Sikhanyiso, Sibahle Dlamini, Makhosothando Dlamini, Majaha Dlamini, and Tiyandza Dlamini. Others are Sakhizwe Dlamini, Saziwangaye Dlamini, Bandzile Dlamini, Lindaninkosi Dlamini, Mcwasho Dlamini, Temtsimba Dlamini and Temaswati Dlamini, among others. It’s a common tradition for the Swaziland King to choose a wife every year. Last year, the Sherburne-educated King chose a new bride during the well-known Reed Dance ceremony, (also known as Umhlanga). The Reed Dance ceremony is an annual Swazi and Zulu tradition held in August or September. In Swaziland tens of thousands of unmarried and childless Swazi girls and women travel from the various chiefdoms to Ludzidzini to participate in the eight-day event, and would-be brides are publicly checked to ascertain their virginity. Swaziland is one of the world’s last remaining absolute monarchies. It has, according to Unicef, the highest HIV/Aids prevalence rate globally. Some 210,000 Swazis were living with the HIV infection. Swaziland, with a population of 1.2 million, ranks 112 out of 131 on the 2016 Global Hunger Index. About 77 per cent of the Swazi population relies on subsistence farming for their livelihood